I’ve been doing a lot of clearing of my Bloglines over the past couple of days, just trying to catch up.
While going through and playing Read or Scan, I came across this post from Nan Russell on her Winning at Work site. It should be noted at this point that I have some very mixed feelings about Nan Russell.
When I started reading her website, I felt like a lot of what she said made sense to me. It’s why I started reading her, and I think I keep reading in the hopes that the kindred spirit feeling will return. After reading the post I’ve linked above, though, I’m just trying to figure out if I’m too irked to continue being a member of her readership.
The post deals with how you identify experts for your sources, and it just really got to me. There is a bit where you wouldn’t take parenting advice from someone who has never been a parent. Um…excuse me. I’m child-free, and I have had many people take my advice on child-rearing since I was a teenager. Maybe this is because I started babysitting when I was ten. Maybe this is because I was handling day care centers when I was twelve. Maybe this is because I started teaching informally when I was nine, formally when I was eighteen. Maybe it’s because I spent three years as a nanny.
The point is, I have a lot of experience with children. Children naturally flock to me, and most parents are utterly impressed at the level of benevolent discipline in any group of children I work with. I’ve been asked constantly how I got such a normally unruly group under control. I’ve been asked to pass judgment on how unruly a group of children is. (This week, the answer in both cases has been: Nowhere near as bad as you seem to think they are.)
I have been seen as a child expert since I was a kid myself. I have no children. The closest I ever want to come to being a parent is through adoption or fostering. And there are still people who think I have good, practical knowledge on child-rearing.
The flip side of that is the number of parents I know who don’t have the first clue about being a parent, and don’t care to learn.
As with any job, it’s not about the fact that you’ve held the title. It’s all about those who have earned the skills by actually doing the work.